Oct 20, 2008

NaNoWriMo Prep Work

It's my favorite time of year again. No, I don't mean Halloween, even if it is the most cross dresser friendly holiday. I’m referring to NaNoWriMo. Over the last few years the final two weeks of October get me all excited for National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo).

Not familiar with NaNoWriMo? In short it is the Boston Marathon for writers. It's a challenge to write a novel in one month. Write 50,000 words within the 30 days of November. Sound hard? Well it is. But where’s the fun if there’s no challenge in it?

This will be my third attempt in four years. I've been successful twice so far and feel confidant that this year will net another successful attempt. I'll not bore you with the details of NaNoWriMo. Head over to the website and check it out.
www.NaNoWriMo.org And if you decide to give it a try let me know. I'd love to help support my fellow writers.

The reason I’m about it here (in my blog about my cross dressing and other sexual exploits) has to do with my warm ups to NaNo. Like a marathon or any other endurance event, there's some preparation and training involved. At least for me. I know that some people dive in to NaNo head first, having never done a lick of prep work and been successful,. But that's not in my personality.

In order to hit that 50,000 goal I try and write about 2200 words a day during NaNo (1667 per day is the base amount if you wan to hit the goal but I like to take a few days off). Since I don't normally write that many words per day either with my fiction or my professional writing I need to work up to it in the weeks leading up. Just like a runner increasing his daily milage before doing a marathon.

My trick to getting the word count up over 2K every day? Erotica. That's right: sex, sex, sex. I drop down to my knees, pump out as many dirty metaphors and creamy similes as I possibly can and then wipe my chin clean with the back of my hand when it's all over.

They say to write about what you know, and I've known my share (and possibly your share too) of engorged pens and heaving beasts over the years so it's an easy topic for me to spread wide on to the page, so to speak.

However, I've found that there are only two ways to keep up the flow of dirty deeds and erotic adventures. I either have to have far too much sex, or far too little. If I’m getting just enough to keep a grin on my face and a bounce in my step then I have no mojo left to drill in to my characters and their activities. So here is my theory on the ratio of actual sex to the amount of sex you can write about.

In the one hand, as it were, you can go without any sex. This includes self satisfaction. The idea being to bottle up all that desire, wanting, and lust and give them no other outlet but in to your writing. This works well enough but has the same problem as a superstitious baseball player who is on a streak. As soon as you stop doing whatever it is that you think was causing the streak, you break it. So the moment you break down and have sex, no matter if it’s alone, with a partner or in a large group of strangers, you loose that deep well of drive and suddenly your erotica falls flat.
On the other hand, having lots and lots of sex can be useful to your writing too. Sex has the magic ability to replenish itself and the faster you turn the crank the faster it will recharge. When you are young it is easy to get right back up and have sex sessions back to back. But as you get out of your teens and early twenties you have to put a little effort in to it. If you do then you are rewarded with an extra measure of desire. Pour that back in to your partner(s) and you get even more back. In short, the more you do it, the more you want it. And that can provide another great source of writing energy. Well so long as you’re writing about sex.

So for now, my awesome wife is “sacrificing” herself to help me get my writing up to speed before November comes. And since we are both participating in NaNoWriMo this year (and neither of us are writing erotica for the event) this also may be some of the last nookie we get for a while.

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Sep 30, 2008

A Rare Event

A rare event happened on Monday. I told a good friend of mine about my alter ego. There are only a few people out there who know about both halves of my persona and I'm very careful to not let Tonya bleed into my other life. But this person is someone I trust deeply and someone who had demonstrated to me that she would not freak out on me when she found out.

I think every cross dressers goes through that moment of terror (fear of rejection) when we open up and share our secret identity to someone new. Despite knowing on an intellectual level that she would not get all weird on me, some visceral part of me was still scared shitless. It's that same sick feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you're at the top of the roller coaster and are about to go screaming down the the track at 60 MPH. This is also why I don't ride roller coasters anymore.

Well, as it turns out I had nothing to worry about. She hardly flinched when I told her, going so far as to tell me that she'd dated a cross dresser for a while. It didn't work out but I got the impression that the CD might not have been the reason it ended. I'll have to ask her more about that sometime.

My point? While I'm not ready to just start telling everyone in my life that I like to slip in to a skirt on evenings and weekends, I do feel better for coming clean with a close friend who I think probably suspected something like tis anyway.

Is there someone in your life that you need to tell something to? Got a secret you need to share?

Jul 21, 2008

Eyeliner I like

These days I'm the sort of cross dresser who almost exclusively dresses at home for the fun and excitement of my wife and myself. I've not gone out in full drag in a long time. That's not to say that it's not an option, it's just not part of the current phase of my life. However there are a few things that I do daily to give little hints of my hedonistic hobby.

Obviously, like many cross dressers I like to replace my boring boxers with pretty panties under my guy clothes. Sometimes is just panties, other times I'll add a bra or camisole. Truly special occasions will also get a pair of stockings and garter belt.

Another trick I do is to use some simple makeup. Nothing too obvious, but enough to sort of finish the look. WIth the rise of the metrosexual male it's actually not that uncommon to see guys walking down the street who have taken the time to look better than if they've just rolled out of bed. So brushing on some light foundation and swiping a line of eyeliner, if done right. will hardly get noticed. Most women I know will tell you that daytime makeup should look like you're not wearing any makeup; it should go unnoticed. For me, even the ritual of putting on a little makeup (along with some frilly undies) before I get dressed is enough to keep a bit of thrill going all day long.

Now the real trick, like most makeup, if not only finding a brand and style you like but also in learning how to apply it correctly. I had been using one of those felt pen type eyeliners and was getting fairly good results. They are easy to apply and fairly easy to control. After a few practice sessions I was able to get something that didn't look like the drag queen I really am. The problem I had with those types of eyeliner is that by the end of the lunch hour I was starting to look a bit like a raccoon. The eyeliner had faded and spread to give me just some general darkness under my eyes.

That is when I discovered the bareMinerals powdered makeup. Specifically I've started using the eyeliner. I have a female friend who uses several other parts of the product line and loves it. I may have to try the foundation soon.

I like the bareMinerals eyeliner because it seems to last all day long. I usually don't have to touch it up unless I'm going out for the evening after having worn it all day long. The makeup itself is a powder and you apply it using a brush. You need to buy a brush separately and I recommend you find one that has a chisel shape. I was able to exercise more control than with a traditional eyeliner brush.

It took me some time to learn just how much powder to put on the brush and my first few attempts ended in me looking like a football player on game day with big dark stripes under my eyes. But with a steady hand and a box of makeup wipes near by I was able to develop a smooth two stroke method of getting a nice sharp line on my eyelid. The results are subtle enough to keep people from saying "Oh there goes another one of those guyliner freaks" yet pronounced enough for me to get many more compliments on eyes.

Now as a bonus, this stuff also has what I call an "After 5" look. If you want something more striking then try wetting your brush before putting on the eyeliner. When this powder gets wet it takes on a much more dramatic look. It goes on more like a traditional wet eyeliner and is much more pronounced. It's the sort of thing you'd do just before you slide in to that little black dress of a night out dancing.

If you want to give it a try I've provided a link below. Let me know what you think.



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Nov 14, 2007

I see London, I see France..

One of the problems with having favorite clothes and losing a bunch of weight is that things start to fit differently. I learned that lesson today.

I've got a favorite pair of jeans (who doesn't, right?) that I pulled off the shelf in my closet as I was getting dressed this morning and stepped in to them They were getting baggy with my recent weight loss but I figured with a belt they'd be fine.

But by the time I got to the office I realized that I'd failed to account for the fact that today I also decided to wear a pair of silky pink panties rather than the much thicker cotton boxer briefs I had originally picked out. Between the extra room in my jeans (despite the belt cinched up all the way) and the thin material of my undies I was having a hard time keeping my pants up.

And that's where the fun began. Every time my jeans slipped down on my hips, the waistband.. the pink and frilly waistband of my panties became exposed and I have to hurry to pull them up or become exposed to all the normals at the office. Now to be fair was also wearing a hoodie that hung down to mostly cover up my exposure but I was still at great risk of exposure and as many of you know, that is part of the thrill!


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Oct 25, 2007

It's the most magical time of the year

Well boys and (would be) girls, it is the most wonderful time of the year for crossdressers. It's nearly Halloween!

It's that time of the year when closet dressers get to step out on the town in all their pretty, sexy, or slutty clothes and feel fairly safe. Think about how many hairy male nurses you've seen; or French maids with 5 O'clock shadow. They'll all claim that their wives or girlfriends 'made them do it' but we all know the truth.

So if you run across a guy in an Elvira outfit this year at work be sure to complement him. But also make note of who he is. You can almost be sure that he'll be wearing panties the rest of the year and that could make for some interesting water cooler talk.

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Oct 22, 2007

A lazy morning for doing it all

Monday morning found me taking a day off from work for mental health reasons. I didn't know she was planning on doing it but my wife then announced that she was leaving to spend the day with her sister up in town (about 20 min away, we live a bit in the sticks). Suddenly I found myself looking at several hours of undisturbed alone time. Well what's a crossdress to do? Everything.

After a long hot bubble bath and smooth shave of all the required parts I dried off and dusted my whole body lightly in a lavender scented powder. Then I stepped in to the bedroom and put on all my foundation garments (stockings, garterbelt, panties, bra with silicone titties, and slip). Next it was back to the bathroom to put on all my makeup. Now since I had the whole morning to myself I had decided that I was going to go all the way with my dress-up time today.

I put on all of the following makeup in basically this order; liquid foundation, consealer, foundation powder, eye shadow, eyeliner, mascara, a tiny touch of blush, face powder, lip gloss, lip liner, lip stick and a final coat of lip gloss. After I had my face looking good, I tweaked my hair around a bit with the curling iron and then it was back to the bedroom for the rest of my outfit.

I selected a lightweight blue button up dress with a white Hawaiian flower pattern on it. I like this dress since it shows a nice amount of cleavage and depending on the number uf buttons I leave undone I can show quite a bit of leg, like I did today. Lastly I slipped in to a pair of navy pumps I got just to go with the dress and the spent several minutes admiring myself in the mirror.

As I mentioned I don't get fully dressed up that often anymore so it was fun to spend the effort to make it look just right.

Once I tore myself away from the mirror I headed out to the rest of the house where I fixed myself some breakfast and read the news. Then I opened up my work laptop and checked in on my email. Good thing I did becasue I had forgot about a conference call I had to dail in to today. I surfed around for a bit on the net and then made my call for work, spending the whole time in what was almost office attire. Yet somehow I think I'd be visiting HR if I walked in to work wearing these clothes.

After that was done I spent a little time in some self love and was headed for a serious orgasim when my wife called and asked if I wanted anything for lunch, she was going to be home soon. We talked for a few and she quickly figued out what I had spent the whole morning doing. She told me not to change. She wanted me all pretty for when she got home.

So I've killed a few minutes jotting down this post and now I'm going to go touch up my makeup and wait for my wife to get home and the real fun to start.

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Oct 19, 2007

Purge and Replace

This weekend I'm planning on doing something that nearly every CD does at least once in his life.. the dreaded purge.

Now more often that not the purge is an attempt to put all this "girlie stuff" behind him and get on with his life sans crossdressing. For one reason or another he has given up trying to live with his female side and decided to quit cold turkey. For everyone who has been there you know that it's folly and it's not long before a new pair of pink panties has found its way in to our dresser drawers.

However, my planned purge for this weekend has nothing to do with me giving up on my sissy side. Just the opposite in fact. I am about to take on a new role at work and have need to update my wardrobe a bit so I'm going to be cleaning out ALL of my clothes from my half of the closet, all my dresser drawers and storage under the bed. From suits and ties to sock and undies, nothing will go without inspection. I'll be tossing out the old, the wrong sized, the out of style, and the just plain ugly.

The best part of it? Once I 've made room and figured out what I need it'll be time to start shopping. I am geting a nice raise and a sepperate unrelated bonus from work that will show up in my wallet right at the first of the year. I've already told Wife that a good chunk of it is destined for new clothes but I put a spin on it.

After so many years of buying most of my female clothing I have asked Wife to do some internet shopping to find some femme things for me that she thinks are sexy. Remember boys, if you want your women to play along with your dress-up games be sure that she is happy too. Letting her pick out some of your clothes is a great way to do that.

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Oct 17, 2007

A Week in the Life

Have you seen the story in the Daily Mail about a guy who spent a week as a woman in all aspects except for donning a dress?

Here is the link. It's an interesting read to be sure.

The wife is the one who brought this to my attention and we've been talking about trying our own version of that some time soon. In addition to the sorts of changes mentioned in the column she also wants me to totally give up boxers for the week in favor of panties and spend all of my nights sleeping in nightgowns. It all sounds good by me. We just need to set a date. I'll be sure to report back to you all when I know when, along with daily updates.

Have any of you tried anything like this before, an extended period of time as your femme self? The comments section is open for you to share those stories!

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Oct 16, 2007

Book Suggestion


Miss Vera's Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls






Author Veronica Vera;

Synopsis Miss Vera's Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls is an
informative textbook for readers who want practical advice about all
things femme (complete with illustrations and homework assignments). It
includes an anecdotal "herstory" of Miss Vera's experiences as a
pleasure activist and gender educator and a delightful document of the
transformation of the academy's students as they prance toward "gender
euphoria" in high heels and glimmering tiaras. This is an indispensable
guide for emerging femmes of all ages, sexes, and sexual orientations,
as well as an insightful, humorous, and sassy work sure to interest all
devotees of gender studies. --Julia Steinmetz

Publication date 13 October, 1997

Genre Crossdressing, How To

Click on the title above to buy it at Amazon.com



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Oct 12, 2007

First Post!


Ever since I started reading Slashdot so many years ago I have wanted to say that.

I'm a crossdressing Gen X guy who is exploring some of his femme issues here on an quasi-anonymous blog.

The idea here is mostly to give myself a forum to air out my own personal exploration with what it means to be a corssdresser in the context of the rest of my life and hopefully benefit other crossdressers in the process.


If you like what you read please let me know, especially if you're a fellow sister X'er.

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